Do you prefer to rub your own feet when they are sore, or would you rather someone else did it for you? Of course most people would choose to have someone else rub your feet. It just feels better, right? Well, it is the same for me with having orgasms. I can do it myself but it always, always, always feels better when I have my orgasm with a partner.… Read More »It’s Like Rubbing Your Own Feet.
Lillith, and others, in my life often tell me I am ridiculous and silly. They are right, I am often silly and dom, all at the same time. As far as I am concerned most of life is ridiculous. We have to do so many silly things each and every day, most of which are pointless. We elect ridiculous people to be in charge and they proceed to be more… Read More »Life is Ridiculous and So am I
Today is my birthday. I don’t usually write about my birthday because to me it is just another day. After all I had very little to do with being born or frankly even surviving those first two years. So mostly I don’t pay much mind to my own birthday. Except for one thing that I do find very important. It is a day to be with the people I love… Read More »Another Year Older
The course of true love never did run smooth William Shakespeare In life, love and d/s there are always hiccups. Not every thing can go to plan every single time. In other words, if you think you know what is going on , that is the moment right before you screw it up. Let me give some context before we get to the meat of the matter. Lillith has been… Read More »Taking Control
I was born and indoctrinated a Roman Catholic. As you may of may not know it is a religion based on shame and guilt. It was baked into my life at an early age. Follow all the rules or go to hell. This wasn’t just at church but practiced at home too. Church rules were hammered home every Sunday, at Mass and at Sunday School. Go to church every Sunday… Read More »Guilty as Charged
What makes a man who he is? Is it the worst things he has ever done? Or the best things he wants to be⁸? These thoughts weigh on my mind every day. I have not yet found any answer that feels right and maybe I never will. Maybe it is impossible for me to determine and it must be decided by those I have impacted along the way. I do… Read More »What Makes a Man
We are going to see each other again on Monday. We met in Paris in March and were already discussing when we would meet again. Then things changed and those plans were put on hold. I know for many it has been much longer since they have seen or will get to see their person and that just sucks and so I try not to be very public about our… Read More »The List
Lillith wrote a post about her orgasms. That got me thinking about my orgasms. So like, I think, most everyone else I prefer orgasms with my partner. Not that I don’t have them on my own. The current situation means that they are always on my own. That doesn’t mean that we don’t sext or have phone sex but that isn’t exactly the same. Now that I am with Lillith… Read More »The Big O
I am a patient man. This isn’t just my opinion. I have been told this many times over the years. It has served me well and I work hard to cultivate it. When I do it right it helps me. It keeps me calm under pressure and mostly stops me from letting anger drive my decisions. Mostly the people in my life like it too. Except, when they don’t. Sometimes… Read More »Patience
I have learned a lot over the last 18 months. Some of it bad, some of it good. All of it useful. Some of what I have I have learned has show me my terrible decisions and what I need to do to avoid repeating them. Some of it has to do with other people. The thing I am going to talk about here is something that I wasn’t sure… Read More »Not an option
