Taking Control

The course of true love never did run smooth William Shakespeare In life, love and d/s there are always hiccups. Not every thing can go to plan every single time. In other words, if you think you know what is going on , that is the moment right before you screw it up. Let me… Continue reading Taking Control

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Guilty as Charged

I was born and indoctrinated a Roman Catholic. As you may of may not know it is a religion based on shame and guilt. It was baked into my life at an early age. Follow all the rules or go to hell. This wasn’t just at church but practiced at home too. Church rules were… Continue reading Guilty as Charged

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What Makes a Man

What makes a man who he is? Is it the worst things he has ever done? Or the best things he wants to be⁸? These thoughts weigh on my mind every day. I have not yet found any answer that feels right and maybe I never will. Maybe it is impossible for me to determine… Continue reading What Makes a Man

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The List

We are going to see each other again on Monday. We met in Paris in March and were already discussing when we would meet again. Then things changed and those plans were put on hold. I know for many it has been much longer since they have seen or will get to see their person… Continue reading The List

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The Big O

Lillith wrote a post about her orgasms. That got me thinking about my orgasms. So like, I think, most everyone else I prefer orgasms with my partner. Not that I don’t have them on my own. The current situation means that they are always on my own. That doesn’t mean that we don’t sext or… Continue reading The Big O

Patience

I am a patient man. This isn’t just my opinion. I have been told this many times over the years. It has served me well and I work hard to cultivate it. When I do it right it helps me. It keeps me calm under pressure and mostly stops me from letting anger drive my… Continue reading Patience

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Not an option

I have learned a lot over the last 18 months. Some of it bad, some of it good. All of it useful. Some of what I have I have learned has show me my terrible decisions and what I need to do to avoid repeating them. Some of it has to do with other people.… Continue reading Not an option

Good Enough

I have always striven to be a good man. I have often failed. That doesn’t stop me from trying again and again in the hope that this time, I might finally get it right. How I define being a good man has changed over the many years of my live and has been influenced by… Continue reading Good Enough

Life During Wartime

It isn’t exactly a war and yet we have all taken shelter. She has sent me a great many letters to help me with my “Woe” (a subject for another post) and each of them is more moving than the last. I savor them. I treasure them. I have a system, before I read her… Continue reading Life During Wartime

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