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Pride and Joy

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The world has not improved in many way since I was a teen. Mostly the future I had hoped for mostly hasn’t come to pass and in many ways we have slipped backwards. But (there is always a but isn’t there?) there is at least one way the world has improved. Alternative sexualities and genders are now far more accepted than they have ever been. Not that there isn’t a… Read More »Pride and Joy

Dom tasks

In many D/s relationships the submissive has tasks. But what about the Dom, do they have tasks too? To some that is a ridiculous question. But I don’t think so, I think that while Doms don’t have tasks they do have responsibilities. Keeping to those responsibilities is key. I have forgotten that in the past and I won’t do that again. Building a relationship takes work and attention on both… Read More »Dom tasks

A Crying Shame

A Crying Shame

If you didn’t know this already, I have ED. You might wonder why this is something anyone would write a blog post about. I have decided to talk about this exactly because very few men do talk about it. It comes down to shame. So much of the male psyche is based on our penis. We have been told all our lives that what makes us men are those bits… Read More »A Crying Shame

Abandoned House home

There’s no place like…

I don’t even need to finish that sentence and you know what I mean. There are a lot of idioms about home but the one that has always rung true for me is “Home is where the heart is.” That has almost always meant that I was living with the person I was in love with and for 38 years that has been the case and where we lived didn’t… Read More »There’s no place like…

It's Magic

It’s Magic

We live surrounded by magic. I don’t mean the Abracadabra kind of magic, I mean the everyday kind that makes itself known in the mundanity of everyday life. Those things that move your heart and bring you joy. A good cup of coffee or tea (If tea is your cup of tea) a cigarette, a rainbow, or a thunderstorm. Those things that happen each and everyday that we take for… Read More »It’s Magic

Five Women

The Five Women of my Decade

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So as the decade draws to a close I have been giving a great deal of thought to that time and what has happened over those years. Most of the positive role models in my life have been women. Mostly (please note that the word is mostly and not all)what I have learned from men is how not to behave, useful lesson but there are still a few of those… Read More »The Five Women of my Decade

Sense and Synchronicity

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And Serendipity.. Two of the three things in the title I have had in my life in abundance, the one missing? Well that would be sense. Synchronicity and serendipity seem to occur to me all of the time. Most of my careers and relationships have been a direct result of a confluence of these two things. And yet again after a pretty horrific year it has happened once again. Late… Read More »Sense and Synchronicity

Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow

Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow

Tomorrow is the day that we meet. It seems like it was a long time coming and yet at the same time it seems like it was only moments ago you sent me a DM and we started talking. Now, as I write this there are thirteen hours left until we meet in person. We have shared many things about ourselves and not just fun, sexy stuff. But our views… Read More »Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow

A thanksgiving image for a debt of gratitude

A debt of gratitude

I am grateful to my past because it brought me to my present. I am grateful to my present because it will bring me to my future. I am grateful for my future because I have one. So you might not think I have a lot to be grateful for, given the way things have worked out. But you would be wrong. I Have had many ups and downs over… Read More »A debt of gratitude

Daddy Loves You for Open Secret

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I suppose that this doesn’t really qualify as a secret, but I am going to say that maybe not everyone knows this so it is going to count. I learned that I had a kink that I was unaware of. In retrospect I suppose I should have realized it sooner. I have known for a while that I was a Dom, but what came as a surprise is that I… Read More »open secret