I was @domsigns on Twitter and for a brief time I was @uncertainsigns and that account still exists because I don’t want to forget all the history and connections that account brought me.

Take a knee

Take a Knee

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Kneeling A profound act of devotion The beginning of submission The surest way to get my attention We see the pictures everywhere don’t we? Almost always in black and white. He is wearing a suit and of course he has no head. She is naked except for maybe a collar and a leash and on her knees. It is the stereotypical image of d/s and there is nothing wrong with… Read More »Take a Knee

am I good enough

Am I good enough?

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We all worry about this. Are we good enough? Good enough in all the ways we need to be good. Am I a good enough partner? Am I a good enough lover, worker, writer, dominant, submissive? Even when we are feeling at our best and the world is ticking along as planned it can still sneak up on us and trash our day in an instant. Suddenly that feeling of… Read More »Am I good enough?


Who’s the Boss?

As a submissive, you’re in control. I might start to sound like a broken record. We agree on so many things that she recently said “Btw, I’d like to find a d/s topic we disagree on.” Sadly this is not that occasion. In her post Out of Control Lillith has once again said the things that I feel too. But in case it needs saying again, here are my thoughts.… Read More »Who’s the Boss?


Not Going or Coming

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I haven’t had an orgasm since late July. I had lots of them for ten glorious days. I have written about the drop I felt afterward and how that impacted me. But there is one part of that drop that I didn’t notice. Sex and orgasms with her are wonderful and deeply satisfying in a way that orgasms without her are not. I have always preferred orgasms with a partner… Read More »Not Going or Coming

s got the Look

She’s got the Look

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She doesn’t know she has it. But I see it. In every picture that is just for us. Every time we are together and she is feeling loving or submissive. It is unmistakable and amazing. She doesn’t know the impact it has on me. How it makes my heart race or how it stirs my soul. It feeds my dominance too, when she gets that look. It turns me on… Read More »She’s got the Look

Elust 133

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~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~ Shitty Dating Advice Marketing I’m Sick Of Birthday nude: Is this what you want? This One Was Just Right: A Goldilocks Story The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust… Read More »Elust 133

halcyon days

My Halcyon Days Are Ahead of Me

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Halycon days are reflections of the past. Memories of days that were times of peace, happiness and contentment. The word itself comes from the story of Alcyone. When her husband died in a shipwreck, Alcyone threw herself into the sea whereupon the gods transformed them both into halcyon birds (kingfishers). When Alcyone made her nest on the beach, waves threatened to destroy it. Aeolus restrained his winds and kept them… Read More »My Halcyon Days Are Ahead of Me


A Friend in Need is a Friend Indeed

“A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself- and especially to feel, or not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at any moment is fine with them. That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is.” ~ Jim Morrison Oh I have some friends, some wonderful amazing friends. Just not very many of them. I had, for a while,… Read More »A Friend in Need is a Friend Indeed

Beyond Question

Beyond Question

A submissive shouldn’t question a Dominant’s orders. It’s not a submissive’s position to know what a dominant’s reasons are. A submissive shouldn’t question a Dominant’s orders. They should just do it and trust the dominant with that decision. Once upon a time I had young children and I taught them to question everything. That is a skill that all people need in life, not just in d/s, but especially in… Read More »Beyond Question

The willing bondage of consent

The Willing Bondage of Consent

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I have been thinking about us recently. To be completely honest I think about us a lot. I am doing my best to be a better boyfriend and dom and so I am constantly reviewing what we have done, what we will do and what we might do. Since my brain is fairly broken my thoughts often go to different place that is distant from where I started and this… Read More »The Willing Bondage of Consent