Submission isn’t about what you want to do.
No True Way
There is a lot to be said about want and need and what should be important to a submissive or a dom. The thing I believe is that I, as a dom, need to care what my submissive wants and needs. And just as importantly my sub needs to care what I want and need.
I have said it over and over but I will say it again. Our d/s is a partnership. I need it to be a partnership. She serves me best when she wants to serve me. When her heart and her desires align in that way we both get what we want and what we need.
Take that quote an make one tiny change and see if it changes how you feel about it. What if the quote was “Dominance isn’t about what you want to do.”? Does that make any sense? No, of course it doesn’t. So why would changing just who that quote is about make it work?
My way might not be the best way for you, but it doesn’t have to be. It just has to be the best way for me. And for us… if that is what she wants. I will give her what she needs.
