A submissive is a reflection of their dominant. No True Way She is not a reflection of me. I am not a reflection of her. The implication of the prompt is that her submission is only a mirror held up to my dominance. That if she doesn’t measure up then that is down to my failure to be a good dom. She is a brilliant submissive, for me. We decide… Read More »MIrror, Mirror, On The Wall
Do you prefer to rub your own feet when they are sore, or would you rather someone else did it for you? Of course most people would choose to have someone else rub your feet. It just feels better, right? Well, it is the same for me with having orgasms. I can do it myself but it always, always, always feels better when I have my orgasm with a partner.… Read More »It’s Like Rubbing Your Own Feet.
I am going to diverge from the list of questions for this prompt because that is just who I am. My list is going to be 5 things I have learned being kinky. Now as always these observations are from my admittedly narrow perspective. 1. Being kinky is not going to fix your life nor that of your partner. It doesn’t make anything easier, if anything it makes life more… Read More »I have limited these points to five
Doms always have to be the “adult in the room” even during a break up. The flip side of power is responsibility. No True Way So I am going to start with my decidedly hetero normative view, because, well that is where I live. I am a penis enabled person with a vulva enabled person as a submissive so that is the only place I can write from. I learned… Read More »Irresponsible Me
You can’t be a submissive and a feminist No True Way Well here we are again. People telling other people what they can and can’t be. This post was going to be all snarky to highlight how ridiculous this statement is. But then another conversation started and I changed my mind about how I was going to write this. The notion is that you can’t be submissive and a feminist… Read More »The Contradictions of Society
My Lillith wrote a post for Kink of the Week about gifts, it is a very good post and you should definitely read it. In her post she muses about whether she has given me a d/s gift and my response when asked that question. The point of this post is about her response to my answer and the nature of gifts from my point of view. The image above… Read More »The Gift of Submission, Yeah Yeah
A person, who identifies as submissive, went through some kind of trauma or is mentally unstable in some way. #NoTrueWay Ahh yes, we kinky people are sick and warped and all quite mad. This story is told again and again, in the mainstream press and just in the world in general. It is used in murder trials and all kinds of criminal prosecutions to show that people have some sort… Read More »We’re All Mad Here.
It is a submissive’s responsibility to make sure the dominant (always) reaches orgasm. No True Way There are so many d/s rules that I was unaware of before No True Way. This is a prime example. I had no idea that it was my subs responsibility to make sure that I always have an orgasm. I have (yet again) been doing it all wrong. I do have some questions though.… Read More »Who is Responsible for Your Orgasm
Lillith, and others, in my life often tell me I am ridiculous and silly. They are right, I am often silly and dom, all at the same time. As far as I am concerned most of life is ridiculous. We have to do so many silly things each and every day, most of which are pointless. We elect ridiculous people to be in charge and they proceed to be more… Read More »Life is Ridiculous and So am I