Too often we think of thing to narrowly. That words have a single meaning and not many, if not multitudes. I love words, the way they make me feel, the way they rumble in my brain, the way they feel in my mouth. The power they have when unleashed. That seems to be the case when it comes to our senses. We take them for granted and limit their impact… Read More »The Sixth Sensuality
I know neither of the following recipes are about Devil’s Food cake but rather I am the devil making the food. I love to cook and bake. It feeds the caring part of me and it is how I show people how I feel about them. A way to express love. I don’t just slap things together (well, mostly I don’t) but spend time thinking about what people might like… Read More »Devil’s Food
I have many passing thoughts, some are silly, some are deep (at least I think so) and some just keep bouncing around in my head until I have the time and space to let them out. The one that has been bouncing around lately is taboo. When thinking about kinks and where they come from I was left with only a few possibilities. Now this, as with so much of… Read More »Taboo to you
Mean week just ended. Lillith had mentioned when that week started that she was going to need a lot of aftercare (see Lillith’s note), and that was very good of her to let me know that since we are new together, and mostly LDR, so that kind of communication is vital. This was a challenge for the both of us since we were pushing boundaries and limits. The challenge was… Read More »Before, during, and aftercare
In many D/s relationships the submissive has tasks. But what about the Dom, do they have tasks too? To some that is a ridiculous question. But I don’t think so, I think that while Doms don’t have tasks they do have responsibilities. Keeping to those responsibilities is key. I have forgotten that in the past and I won’t do that again. Building a relationship takes work and attention on both… Read More »Dom tasks
My little slut was expressing some thoughts about the seeming contradiction between BDSM and your partner being mushy and romantic and loving. And I can see how many people might find those things mutually exclusive. After all, how can you beat, humiliate and use someone you love? This conversation started with her telling how amazing it was to find love and caring and D/s all in the same purpose. Not… Read More »Love and Filth and Pain Oh My
Kink in Real Life and Real Life in Kink I was recently asked about which aspects of your kinks you show in public and what the transition is like when you are in a kink friendly environment.
And I am sure there are many who will wonder “Already?” I know that it could be seen like that. Now in spite of the fact that I am very old I haven’t been in love many times, that being said I tend to fall hard and fast when it does happen. Like every other time it was something that I found while I wasn’t looking for it. My plan… Read More »A Dom in Love
And Serendipity.. Two of the three things in the title I have had in my life in abundance, the one missing? Well that would be sense. Synchronicity and serendipity seem to occur to me all of the time. Most of my careers and relationships have been a direct result of a confluence of these two things. And yet again after a pretty horrific year it has happened once again. Late… Read More »Sense and Synchronicity
Those were the last words she said to me tonight as she went to sleep. And she is right, just as she is always with me. That doesn’t make LDR any easier and truth be told I was certain before I met her that I would never do another LDR again. But here we are. The thing is that we are pretty amazing together. We can talk for hours on… Read More »You are always with me
