Submission is a giftNo True Way
All relationships are gifts. At least for me they are. And they are reciprocal gifts when done right.
This isn’t just true in d/s but in all of life.
What it comes down to for me is the time that someone else invests and the time I give in return. All relationships are about how you spend your time. Time is the most precious gift we have to give each other.
That makes submission a gift. The thought that your sub puts into her submission. It also makes dominance a gift. We only have so much time to give and so we must choose to spend it as wisely as possible. I choose to give my time and love and d/s to those who give it back.
We all have to spend our time doing the things in life that have to be done. Take out the trash, do the laundry, and work. Those things all take away time from doing the stuff we wish to be doing. I always try to remember that doing those tasks also support having time to devote to being present for others.
I will close this post with an example of how time is a gift outside of the ways that most people think.
As some of you know, there is a dog in my life. Hudson. We have a relationship; it is by its very nature a relationship with a power imbalance. It has to be that way because while Hudson is a very smart dog, his perception of the right thing to do isn’t always the best thing to do. So, I am one of the people who decide for him.
Our relationship is a gift for both of us. He gets to be loved and cared for and I get his love and his sense of fun and adventure in return. My life is a better place because he is in it.
I am not comparing my d/s relationship, or in fact, any of my relationships with people to what we have, but some of the concepts remain the same.
Spend your time in a way that makes you and those that you care for happy. Because you will eventually run out of time. Both to give, and receive. Time is a gift.