A Dom doesn’t need to ever use the wordPLEASE This is the prompt for the current No True Way. Of course a dom doesn’t need to say please, or thank you, or you’re welcome. A dom doesn’t need to be polite to anyone ever, and certainly not to their sub. A dom is the master of all he surveys. The whole world is theirs to command, to take and use… Read More »Hold Please
No True Way
For No True Way I have written many posts. They seems to be a variation of the same thing. Me repudiating the quote. I always give it a caveat. That it is only my point of view and that it may well be different for others. Stop “trying” to be a good sub…because that’s focusing on “you”…Focus on Him…His needs, His wants, His desires…And everything will fall into place So… Read More »Out of Focus
The above picture represents how many dominants see themselves. As lord of the jungle. proud master of all they survey they reign supreme over the adoring subbies they command. Those subbies need nothing more than the knowledge that they are content to be nothing more than willing and grateful servants knowing this all they need and all they will ever need. Nothing more than that they make their dom happy.… Read More »The Abrogation of Self
Real D/s dynamics are 24/7 When I write these posts I feel like I might be saying the same thing over and over again. But I am going to try it in a different way. D/S is like Jenga. You start with what looks like a fully constructed structure and you change it. You take out a block and put it somewhere else to make it change. You do it… Read More »The Jenga of D/S
The dom is the responsible one As always I want to start by saying that what I write here is my opinion and does not apply to other people. I have strong opinions on the above quote. D/s is not a one way street, it takes at least two. It is a shared relationship and that means sharing everything (so long as that is what is negotiated) that includes being… Read More »The Responsible Party
If you rely completely on protocol, you can become a robot. Margaret Trudeau Almost all humans love protocols not just the d/s crowd. They may not be aware of it, but they spend their whole lives learning and becoming accustomed to them. We are taught them at every step of our lives even if they don’t make any sense at all. You can call them whatever you like, rules, routines,… Read More »If you rely completely on protocol, you can become a robot.
A sub (or a dom) is not a car. Maintenance spankings are necessary While I understand the concept of the quote and maybe agree with it in principal, I personally feel that it reduces the concept of a d/s relationship to a car repair manual. People aren’t that simple. Once size does not fit all and there most certainly is no true way. There is only the way that works… Read More »Care and Maintenance of Your Submissive: a Complete Guide
You spend most of your life having firsts. Kisses, lovers, marriages, children, grandchildren. Eventually though those firsts start to give way to lasts. You hardly notice them. They are not like firsts, they are not marked with celebrations, their are no balloons or candles to blow out when your eyes start to fail or when you can’t hear anymore. There are things that I will never be able to do… Read More »A Final Resting Place
For this edition of #NTW the quote is: For the Dominant: Create a sense of fear I am sure that there are people who get off on fear, from both sides of the slash. I am not one of them. If I caused my partner to fear for their mental or physical safety I would be devastated. I attended a session on fear play at kinkfest a few years ago… Read More »Something about fear and d/s
Consent is a tricky thing no matter what people say. There have been many attempts to explain consent, mostly in a sexual context. Like the tea analogy. Simple right? You don’t force tea on people, you ask. If they say yes to tea you don’t assume forever they still want tea. If they decide that they don’t want their tea in the middle of drinking it, you don’t make them… Read More »Kink, Consent, and the Whole World.