We are going to see each other again on Monday. We met in Paris in March and were already discussing when we would meet again. Then things changed and those plans were put on hold. I know for many it has been much longer since they have seen or will get to see their person and that just sucks and so I try not to be very public about our… Read More »The List
This started off to be a different post. But I abandoned that for the time being because it needs more thought and communication, or maybe we need to just do it first and then that post can be written. I do know that I can write this post here and now. There are lots of words written about how a sub should care for her Dom but I don’t think… Read More »My Indulgence
“There will come a time when you believe everything is finished; that will be the beginning.” – Louis L’Amour I have seen this quote before and it tickled my brain because I thought it reminded me of something and eventually I figured it out. It is the lyrics from “Closing Time by Semisonic” that sparked that connection in my brain. Closing timeEvery new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.… Read More »Closing Time
[showhide type=”Content Warning]D/s, The appearance of non consensual use, objectification[/showhide] Since the last time we were together we have been making a lot of plans for the next time we are together. We have a list and not just because she loves lists. But so we can plan the best use of our time together. I have a plan that isn’t on the list, well, at least not yet. I… Read More »Toy with Her
Much of life is full of symbols. Some are required for everyday life. They are a shorthand to communicate information without using words and are often meant to be understood no matter what language you speak. I would say from my point of view that the symbols on clothing fail miserably at this. We use these glyphs in many other parts of our lives as well. To represent aspects of… Read More »A symbol of freedom
[showhide type=”Content Warning]Shaving, Razor, Mention of Blood and D/s[/showhide] I mentioned on Twitter the other day that I was going to learn a new skill. I had a few people ask me what I was going to be learning. I didn’t share that information, but I will now. Recently I wrote a post for Kink of the Week – Grooming called A Close Shave where I talked about shaving Lillith… Read More »cut-throat
I have learned a lot over the last 18 months. Some of it bad, some of it good. All of it useful. Some of what I have I have learned has show me my terrible decisions and what I need to do to avoid repeating them. Some of it has to do with other people. The thing I am going to talk about here is something that I wasn’t sure… Read More »Not an option
Over the weekend I asked Lillith to think about our D/s and her submission and that I was going to do the same and so today I asked her what her thoughts were and among those thoughts was a sentence that stuck out for me. “A thought I had was that D/s is our common denominator.” ~Lillith And of course as many of her words do that got me thinking.… Read More »Fractional D/s
I recently complained that there was no representation of my body type in the images used to portray BDSM. You know what those pictures typically look like. A fit man in a suit or shirtless with a naked slim woman on her knees. And it is almost always in black and white. I am not a fan, sure, kink can be art, but for me these portrayals remove the grittiness… Read More »Eye of the Beholder
I have read a lot of posts about respect recently and many of them have rubbed me the wrong way and I haven’t been quite sure why until I thought about writing on the topic. There seem to be two main schools of thought. (Not exclusively two before some smartass makes a comment) A. That respect is something we should all have for each other right from the start. B.… Read More »Find out what it means to me
