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The Heat Between Her Legs

The Heat Between Her Legs

She tested the paddle against the palm of her hand. She had chosen it herself, curious if the holes in the smooth wood would leave the marks she craved so much. She had been told to wait with the paddle dressed in a way to please him. The feel of the paddle against her skin made her squirm. She loved and hated it at the same time. The way she… Read More »The Heat Between Her Legs

A good sub

A Good Sub

I have a dilemma. I don’t quite know how to find a solution to it either. You see, the wonderful and amazing woman in my life, my precious partner and submissive. Well, she doesn’t think she is a good sub. Hard to believe I know, but there it is. I asked her point blank. Are you a good sub? Her: Fine Me: Are you a good sub? Her: Not too… Read More »A Good Sub

Jenga

The Jenga of D/S

Real D/s dynamics are 24/7 When I write these posts I feel like I might be saying the same thing over and over again. But I am going to try it in a different way. D/S is like Jenga. You start with what looks like a fully constructed structure and you change it. You take out a block and put it somewhere else to make it change. You do it… Read More »The Jenga of D/S

The Experiment

The Experiment

Today Lillith and I are starting something new. Something that I am calling The Experiment. I am not going to spell it all out for you dear reader but I will give you some highlights. We have created some shared online documents that we will use to chart and modify our explorations in dominance and submission. They will be a way for us to communicate our desires and needs for… Read More »The Experiment

Monoromanticamouristexpialidocious

Monoromanticamouristexpialidocious

I have had sex with more people than I can count. I have been in love with a smaller number of people that I can count. I have been in a (sort of) monogamous relationship. I have been in a polyamorous relationship. I have been thinking about love a lot recently. There are many versions of love. The love you have for family, for friends, for a good sandwich and… Read More »Monoromanticamouristexpialidocious

The Responsible Party

The Responsible Party

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The dom is the responsible one As always I want to start by saying that what I write here is my opinion and does not apply to other people. I have strong opinions on the above quote. D/s is not a one way street, it takes at least two. It is a shared relationship and that means sharing everything (so long as that is what is negotiated) that includes being… Read More »The Responsible Party

Volcano

Dance on a Volcano

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Things have been building up lately, for the both of us I think. It has been a while since we have been together. It is becoming intense. I often see the sub side of Twitter talking about how much they need to submit. Much less frequently do I see the other side of the slash talking about what they need. With things as they are right now I don’t know… Read More »Dance on a Volcano

Bath

Existentialism means that no one else can take a bath for you.

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We have never shared a bath together. I am pretty sure that she isn’t the biggest fan of baths. I find them to be ok, unless they are shared. I want to spend a day full of kink moments with marks and bruises, welts and love. A day where we take our time exploring each other, exploring our roles and desires until we collapse into a tired sweaty mess. Then… Read More »Existentialism means that no one else can take a bath for you.

Holidays

High Days and Holidays

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I am an ardent atheist and that is extremely unlikely to change. I would have until recently called myself a humanist, but then people have revealed themselves to be pretty terrible. So I don’t know where that leaves me. I can say there are are a small and select group of people who have shown that they aren’t terrible, but after the last few years I have become gun shy… Read More »High Days and Holidays