A submissive needs to be broken down by their dominant. It’s a hot d/s concept, right? The dom breaks the sub down to a quivering obedient shell, then the dom builds them back up again. It is cathartic and builds a closer and binding connection. The thing is the need to separate fantasy from the real life that most of us have to live. You know, the one where we… Read More »Break Down
I was @domsigns on Twitter and for a brief time I was @uncertainsigns and that account still exists because I don’t want to forget all the history and connections that account brought me.
Sex means PIV* Everything else is foreplay, petting, making out, etc No True Way I know that seems like a ridiculous question, but, sadly it is not. There are a lot of people who think that unless a penis inveigles its way into a vagina then what is happening is not sex. For me sex is any event where one or more people have an orgasm, I know that others… Read More »What Is Sex Anyway?
Today is my birthday. I don’t usually write about my birthday because to me it is just another day. After all I had very little to do with being born or frankly even surviving those first two years. So mostly I don’t pay much mind to my own birthday. Except for one thing that I do find very important. It is a day to be with the people I love… Read More »Another Year Older
She was the last of her kind. No one else kept to the old ways. Her family had made sure that the needed sacrifice had been done each year for millennia. It wasn’t just the date that kept her aware that the time was fast approaching. She could look out her window each night and see the signs. As her neighbors carved pumpkins and made harvest wreaths in pale remembrance… Read More »The Cycle
Each sub has to have their own collar and a collar that was worn by another sub before should never be worn by anyone. I have already written this post, and then I decided to start over. There was a gap between writing it and actually pressing the publish button and that gave me time to think. That can be problematic for me because I often find that more thinking… Read More »Does The Collar Belong to You Or Do You Belong To The Collar?
Way back when I was a baby dom at the nubile age of 50 I did a lot of research. One of the things I found was an excel BDSM spreadsheet. Exciting right? The first thing I did was google at least half of the items listed because I had no idea what they were. Then I did some formatting and editing as some of the terms used were pretty… Read More »Check Please
A dominant person recognizes a submissive person……not with the eyes, but with the whole being. #NTW Lillith and I have recently returned to our respective abodes from two glorious weeks in Fromage, France. While we were there we talked about so many different things and one of them was this prompt. I may have explained my point of view poorly since she believes we hold differing views on this, we… Read More »Vision is the art of seeing what is invisible to others.
For this current #NTW the quote is Stubbornness is a bad character trait for a submissive. Which leads me to the question I ask all the time. If it is a bad trait for a submissive isn’t also a bad trait for a dominant? Wouldn’t a stubborn dom stick to his path not matter if it was right or wrong? Not caring who was harmed, just boldly moving forward no… Read More »As Stubborn As A Mule
So Lillith has been doing the 30 days of D/s for prompts for the The Blog Days of Summer and since we are together now we get to discuss what she is writing before, during and after she writes it. Today we were talking about negotiation. Our d/s contains a great deal of discussion and negotiation about, well, everything. Sometimes it is about what we mean because of our different… Read More »An Agreement In Principle