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I was @domsigns on Twitter and for a brief time I was @uncertainsigns and that account still exists because I don’t want to forget all the history and connections that account brought me.

Daddy Loves You for Open Secret

open secret

I suppose that this doesn’t really qualify as a secret, but I am going to say that maybe not everyone knows this so it is going to count. I learned that I had a kink that I was unaware of. In retrospect I suppose I should have realized it sooner. I have known for a while that I was a Dom, but what came as a surprise is that I… Read More »open secret

Maps for Great Explorations

Great Explorations

I am sure that many of you are aware there have been some profound changes in my life and relationships. That being said I am greatly enjoying getting to know new people and learning about new possibilities. Not all of the things I have learned from the changes have been good. But I suppose that is just how change is and you have to take the good with the bad… Read More »Great Explorations

Never go into the basement

“It sure does get dark early this time of year” Lilli thought as she arrived home from work. There was no one to greet her unless you count her goldfish. As she stepped through the front door she flicked the switch just inside to turn the lights on. The dark remained.She flipped the switch a few more times times and still no illumination. Lilli sighed and headed toward the fuse… Read More »Never go into the basement

Sparks image for Connection

connect the dots

When I was thinking about what to write today I was having trouble finding a topic that resonated with me that didn’t require research or inordinate amount of time thinking my way through it. When I suddenly was inspired. A lot of what I have been writing about comes down to one thing. Connection. The thing that I am looking for boiled down to one word. The thing that I… Read More »connect the dots

A rose by any other name

A rose by any other name…

In my post Of your own free will I mentioned some names that the Dom might be called, and when I was thinking about what to write next it made me think about the names we call each other, both in the wider world and in more kink friendly circumstances. Some kink appellations can be used in most public places, like a sub calling her Dom “Sir”. It might raise… Read More »A rose by any other name…

Collared Woman for Of your own free will

of your own free will

I want you…No, that isn’t quite right. I mean, I do want you. But I want more, need more. There is something inside me that craves it. I have questioned many things about myself but not this need. Hard to believe there was a time in my life when I didn’t know that I needed it. But once you find out something like that about yourself. It turns out, there… Read More »of your own free will

Bench for Addiction

The Addiction

In an old warehouse the woman sat on a low stool. Her legs each had a leather strap that was attached to chains that lead to the wall behind her forcing her cunt to be exposed. Another strap encircled her waist and was attached directly to the same wall.  Her gaze was vacant as one hand rubbed her clit as her other hand plunged 2 fingers in and out of… Read More »The Addiction

Another point of view

Hello. Please refer to your blog, the section of your recent post entitled “Love.” That’s what I’m writing to you about. Some time ago I went through the breakup of a long-term relationship and although my situation had differences, I faced, and am still facing, many of the life/love themes that you are struggling with now. It’s a long and winding road to get somewhere – anywhere – from where… Read More »Another point of view

One is the lonliest numer

One is the loneliest number

..or is it? I was recently asked about whether I wanted more than one sub. And to be honest at one point in my life I would have said “Absolutely” but then kitten came along and while I didn’t expect it, she was a great addition to my life. But now that Molly and I are no longer D/s, or a couple, well, I don’t know where things are going… Read More »One is the loneliest number

Love, Sex, and D/s

I have written before (on the other site) about my thoughts on love and D/s. To recap briefly for the new people here I find that for me, those things go hand in hand. Others don’t feel the same way and that is cool. It just isn’t how I feel. Love We will start with love. I have learned that I over commit to love. That I focus far to… Read More »Love, Sex, and D/s