Real D/s dynamics are 24/7
When I write these posts I feel like I might be saying the same thing over and over again. But I am going to try it in a different way.
D/S is like Jenga. You start with what looks like a fully constructed structure and you change it. You take out a block and put it somewhere else to make it change. You do it slowly and carefully with considerable thought because if you make a mistake you can collapse the whole structure.
If you think of each block of the tower as an element of d/s and you make them fit how you need. One block for spanking, another for a rule and so on. You end up building and rearranging constant and that is the point. You can’t stop testing and trying because if you do, it might be stable, but it also might not be the right thing for you and your partner.
Of course playing this game does not come without risk. You could make everything fall apart and not be able to put it all back together. That is just how life works, but if you are both dedicated you can just start again and learn from what you got wrong.
What does this have to do with the quote? Well, it all boils down to how YOU, both of you (or three or four, or more) want your d/s to be and whether it includes 24×7 is down to the people involved. Nothing makes your d/s any less important or less “real” no matter what parts you do or don’t do.
So build your own Jenga tower out of the the parts that work for you and if anyone tells you that you are doing it wrong, smile sweetly and tell them to fuck all the way off.
Michael
Well said Michael, totally agree. One size does not fit all.
lilly
It’s a good metaphor…apt for any relationship, really – but I can see how it very specifically applies to D/s, which complicates a relationship.
(I often feel as if I have written about a topic too much, as well. But there is always a new way to see it, and I figure, I am always getting new readers, so a refresher is never a bad thing, even if I am repeating myself a bit.)