I suppose that this doesn’t really qualify as a secret, but I am going to say that maybe not everyone knows this so it is going to count. I learned that I had a kink that I was unaware of. In retrospect I suppose I should have realized it sooner. I have known for a while that I was a Dom, but what came as a surprise is that I am also a Daddy.
Now before you get freaked out, I am not after my daughter or underage girls. I want my women, to be, well, women (and not actually related to me). This is an area that many people even within the kink community that people take issue with. But to me it has two aspects.
On the other side of the coin for me is being the Daddy. Providing that support, care and fulfilling my partners needs gives me satisfaction. And to be fair I must say I love the correction part too. Just like being Dom a large part of it is caring and that feeds me. Just as much as I enjoy delivering a good spanking or flogging, holding her and putting her back together afterwards matters as much as marking and using her does.
Now to the second part of why it works for me. It is the taboo. Either corrupting or being corrupted by her while she calls me Daddy is just hot to me. I know that it won’t work for many others, but I want to point out that many of the kinks that others enjoy just don’t get me going and some even turn me off. The fantasy and the extension of the power dynamic to that space is intoxicating. Not far removed from the school girl or cheerleader outfit and finding that hot and sexy doesn’t mean that someone wants to have a teenager, I know that I don’t. But with another consenting who likes the same thing? Well that is a perfect combination for me. Now I don’t want to be a fulltime Daddy because sometimes my plain old Dom side has to come out too and while there are similarities and overlaps they aren’t the same thing. Why we have our kinks and how they work for us is deeply personal. I would guess that for me being a Daddy has its roots in not receiving that kind of affection as a child and while it didn’t move me to be a little, it does move me to provide what I did not get… maybe.
So there you have it, my open secret. Sometimes, I am a Daddy and I like it.